Protecting Your Marriage Against an Affair
Even though my husband is perfect for me and he does complete me on so many levels, I do not believe that there is only one soul mate for each person. Learn how to protect your marriage against an affair.
At 5’7” and 190 pounds, it surprises me that I can still turn heads. I carry myself with confidence, I’m a modest dresser, I am pretty in that natural fresh-faced way, and I’m cheerful. How many ladies do you see like that these days? Not many. And neither do the guys. I intrigue them.
I could easily become entangled in a relationship with someone who is not my husband. I know because it’s happened before, years ago, when I was married to someone else.
I am a cheerful, joyful person. I touch people when I talk. I was raised to look people in the eye when I talk. That has been taken the wrong way more than once. And taken the right way more than once, too.
Your eyes are a window to your soul. We’ve all heard that. But have you heard this?
Your eye is the lamp of your body. When your eye is healthy, your whole body is full of light, but when it is bad, your body is full of darkness. – Luke 11:34
All affairs have one thing in common: eye contact that lasted one second too long. It’s amazing really, this ability to communicate your desires in one glance.
You don’t have to be in a bad marriage to have an affair. Always be on your guard to protect your marriage against an affair.
Here are just a few steps that I take to protect my marriage:
- Avoiding eye contact is the easiest and best thing I can do. It would just take one long stare in a really weak moment to throw my life off-kilter. Even though I would hopefully not follow through with it in the physical, we all know what a devil’s playground our minds can be.
- I work from home, and I am alone for about 6 hours a day. Some of my clients are males, and I always find ways to fit my husband into the conversation.
- I recognize the need in me to be loved and wanted, and I communicate this to my husband.
- I look at the world around me, at the divorce rate, at the broken homes, and that pretty much jars me back into reality.
- My parents divorced after 20 years of marriage and 5 kids. I understand that no one is above falling.
- For our family, my husband will not work the night-shift, and we will not take jobs that require us to stay overnight or out of town.
- For those of you that follow me, you know how awesome my husband is. And I don’t make this stuff up. The guy is wonderful to me and our children.
- His wedding ring doesn’t deter those women at his work. It’s like a challenge to them. I don’t lose sight of that fact. I protect our relationship the way that I expect him to.
- I don’t allow myself to be alone with a guy—in a car or in a room.
- When my husband uses way too much cologne every morning, when he walks by me and pokes me in the ribs (even though I have expressed to him loudly on several occasions how much I hate that), when he wakes up late and makes us all late because he’s a diva—when he does these things that irritate me to no end, I look down at my flip-flop clad feet, my pajama bottoms, my bra that is falling apart, and my baggy shirt, and I realize that I ain’t perfect either.
At the end of the day, I can give you a million tips, but it all comes back around to this: You know the right thing to do. Just do it.
You made a vow. You probably have children. Quit perpetuating the cycle of broken families. And that starts with protecting your marriage.
Guest Post Author:
Melinda Martin is bad at writing about herself in third person. She has invested many hours worth of mistakes into building The Helpy Helper, where she offers independent publishing services, graphic design, and a myriad of other services on request. But her first love has always been writing, and she still finds time to contribute to the blogosphere at Musings of a Ministers Wife.