Conversations involving how to love your spouse through physical touch are often met with great resistance and shyness. Yet, these are some of the most important talks a married couple should have. Being one of the top three reasons why marriages end in divorce, the physical touch talk – and all involved – is worth considering.
Love Your Spouse Through Physical Touch
The Physical Touch Love Language Explained
First and foremost, this love language isn’t just about sex. And you don’t have to cringe at the thoughts of constantly touching your spouse if this is their love language. Whether it’s your top language, your spouses, or neither – there is an inner built-in need for some form of physical touch put there by the Father. There are two quotes in The 5 Love Languages Book that stand out about physical touch:
“Babies who are held, hugged and kissed develop a healthier emotional life than those who are left for long periods of time without physical contact.” (pg 109)
“Since touch receptors are located throughout the body, lovingly touching your spouse almost anywhere can be an expression of love.” (pg 110)
What these quotes mean is there are lots of ways you can love your spouse through physical touch! Here are a few ideas that are even scripturally sound.
5 Ways to Love Your Spouse Through Physical Touch
Give your spouse a massage.
This can be parts of the body or even a full body. If your spouse works with their hands, consider a hand massage. Get creative and have fun!
A loving doe, a graceful deer—may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love. (Proverbs 5:19)
Softly kiss your spouse on the head, hand, and/or lips.
A kiss can say a lot, even if it’s just on the head, hand, or lips. It’s one of the most genuine ways to say, “I love you” without ever saying the words. The next opportunity you get, give your spouse a nice, soft kiss. And there are many benefits to kissing your spouse!
Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—for your love is more delightful than wine. (Song Solomon 1:2)
Hold your spouse’s hand.
How often do you hold your spouse’s hand? Next time you’re sitting on the couch, walking into the grocery store, or doing something else with them nearby, reach over and grab their hand. This is also one of the “3 H’s” – hugging, high-fiving, and holding hands. Going back to the quote above, something such as holding hands can fire the love receptors.
Rub your spouse’s head (and hair).
I haven’t met anyone who doesn’t enjoy a good head (and hair) rub. Cuddle up on the couch with a good movie and invite your spouse to lay their head in your lap. Gently give their head and hair a rub, but don’t be surprised if they fall asleep.
Spice things up with physical intimacy.
Sex is one of the greatest ways a married couple can communicate and be vulnerable with one another. It’s also the height of all things physical touch. Plan a (hot) date night with the intention of being physically intimate with your spouse. And guess what? It’s a proven fact that healthy communication can kick things up a notch in the intimacy department, too. Here’s an article we wrote all about it.
Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame. (Genesis 2:25)
Although there are many ways you can love your spouse through physical touch, the five ways mentioned above are a good place to start. If you ever question what your spouse likes or doesn’t like, have a conversation with them. Ask them what they like and then be intentional by satisfying them in those ways. Need some help in starting these conversations? CLICK HERE.