Please think of 5 gifts that being single gives you that you can learn to enjoy while waiting for your future spouse. When you’re tired of being single, patience is often the last virtue in mind to walk out.
The truth of the matter is waiting is something you’ll be doing the rest of your life. While leaning and depending on God for all the big decisions and changes in life, singleness is one He deserves control over as well.
As you wait, instead of focusing on not having a partner to spend the rest of your life with, think about the following 5 gifts that being single gives you. These will help shape your perspective and help you learn to enjoy the time you have while waiting for your future spouse.
5 Things to Remember When You’re Tired of Being Single
Embrace the ability to strengthen your faith.
Let’s face it, if we all knew what our future held and the time frame in which things would come to pass, we really would need faith – would we? God is present with you now, which means you can focus on Him more than ever. You can thank Him for what you lack (in this case marriage) in a sense of praising Him for your singleness.
You see, the enemy likes to get us focused on the past and the future so we will not be fully present in the now. God has a calling for you now in your singleness, just as much as if you were already married. Stand firm in your present season and allow your singleness to strengthen your faith.
Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see. – Hebrews 11:1
Use your singleness as a training ground for passing tests.
I don’t know anyone who likes tests, but we know enough about life to realize that tests happen in order to grow us closer to Jesus. He Himself was tempted, tested, and everything in between and through His life we can see how we are to respond to these moments in life.
Facing the test of singleness can inadvertently prepare you for other areas in life, whether it is marriage, a new job, ministry work, and so on. How you face this test is a good indicator of how your strength grows (or not) and how you’ll face future tests.
See this season as training for future challenges, and allow God to strengthen you so you can persevere.
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. – 2 Corinthians 12:9
The season of singleness can be used to sanctify you.
Being single doesn’t mean something is wrong with you, or that somehow you’ve missed the calling of being a wife (or husband). It’s easy to divert to this kind of thinking when you’re viewing this season from a selfish perspective. I know that’s hard to hear, but it needs to be said.
In the same respect, the question that should be asked and examined is what part of your needs to be sanctified. What areas of your heart still need to align with God and His Word? What changes do you need to make in order to be a godly spouse when marriage does come?
Instead of seeing your singleness as a bad thing, allow it to sharpen your strength and dignity.
It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality. – 1 Thessalonians 4:3
More Things to Remember When You’re Tired of Being Single
Being single can teach you how not to settle.
I have talked to many people who have similar stories of “settling” in relationships. Not that they all turned out bad, but they were more difficult than they possibly needed to be. At the root of settling are characteristics that none of us enjoys dealing with: bitterness, discontentment, and desperation.
There is a sense of urgency that lurks at the foundation of being impatient and settling is often what is seen on the surface. Never settle for the sake of being tired of being single. Instead, settle for God’s best intentions for you.
But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint. – Isaiah 40:31
Use your singleness as a time to prepare for marriage.
Contrary to popular belief, the time to prepare for marriage is during the single season. Most people wait until they are married to seek out how to be a godly wife or godly husband. It’s not necessarily too late; however, if you come to the marriage covenant already prepared, it can save you a lot of backstepping.
Yes, it is tempting to overlook doing this while being single because you would like to be married more than anything. But think about how much better your union will be when you enter into marriage a strong man or woman of God, with godly characteristics, and godly habits. Work on being that man or woman now, and even more so, be praying for your future spouse in that regard as well.
Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is. – Ephesians 5:15-17
As you navigate your season of being single, always remember that you were created for such a time as this and God holds every one of your plans in His hand. Stand firm, pray and seek the Father in all you do. This too shall pass, friend.